That is how mine acted with both a psychologist and social worker. I think it was his way of coping with stress. We were working on anxiety issues and it wasn't easy to be there.

As far as your psychologist... any gifted training? That makes a huge difference if that is a factor for your child. Also I'd say you are right about needing to get the testing done first. You could blow a lot of copays on counseling and get nowhere without the empirical results available through testing.