Wyldkat, that is really frustrating.
I seem to remember that ASD has been ruled out for Bear, right (or was that Wolf)? If it hasn't been, I would look at that possibility. A child who does not respond to the consistency of discipline the way most kids do often has something else going on.
Regardless, I would still seek the involvement of a behavior therapist (Board Certified Behavior Analyst). That is a person who is equipped to work on these rigidities and teach following directions and other basic skills that are necessary for getting work done, and so on.
DeeDee
