Has anyone else identified drawbacks to being gifted in a regular class setting that are not so obvious but still very important? For us these two took a while to identify:

1. Because DD is socially adept, an outstanding citizen, and can do her work more easily, teachers intentionally sit her next to the kids that other children cannot handle being next to, probably because those kids cannot handle the conflict or distractions. This started happening in 2nd and we didn't catch on why it was happening until the end of 3rd.

2. Because DD often finishes her work first, teachers use her as a teacher's assistant. Rather than bother with differentiation, they have her do tasks like staple handouts. There have not been real TA's in our district's schools for years.