Oh my gosh, I'm not trying to say you don't read to your kids either or that reading to your kids will stop meltdowns I'm just rambling on about why I think the nurtured heart approach says to "narrate things outloud that you see you see your kid randomly doing". Or something like that. I think it's because kids like to hear their parents voice frequently in an indirect and non- meaningful way and I compared how they must feel to the joy I feel in hearing my kids meaningless chatter. I'm a quit typing now until I can speak more concisely.
