I've noticed that it doesn't come up so much now re: DS8. It was awkward when he was younger and we were new to it all, and I was grateful to have found this site so I had an outlet besides the grandmas and DH. Now, if something about DS's giftedness or advanced activities comes up, I'm matter of fact about it. it's just who/how he is; it's nothing we did, so I have no issues being open when asked. I am selective about what I share without being asked, though.