I just read the Why oh Why thread and I noticed a number of people sort of downplay their child's skills by bringing up something they aren't good at. I have found myself doing that a few times and I end up feeling sick to my stomach and..dirty. It is like I'm putting down my own wonderful child to make someone else feel more secure. The few times I caught myself doing it, I told myself I would watch to make sure I didn't do it again.
What am I teaching my child about herself once she starts paying attention when I downplay her abilities?
