I was still working with my daughter at age 7. She did the work, but I checked it and we discussed it together. We had so much fun doing it. I was usually cooking supper at the same time so I was not giving my full attention.
She is now fourteen and a freshman in high school. She rarely wants help anymore, but she does like me being around her. And at this age, I jump at the chance to be around her. I helped her with Spanish verb conjugations and words, but am very impressed at how she keeps up with everything. I often review any papers she has, but have had to make very few changes.
I don't have advice except to say that you probably don't have to back off very much. Teachers do not have very much time with each student and your help does allow them to learn more and to learn to organize their work.
