We just landed in this dilemma - DS is in K at a gifted school - which says from the outset at the info sessions - we give homework here, don't send your kid if you don't believe in it - so we expected homework and to have to be involved but so far it has been more painful than expected.
DS does all the thinking work correctly and quickly but the writing of it is torturous because he does not want to do it. We had to have a whole discussion with him about how repetition is how you learn something physical - something intellectual is done by reading and reviewing -which he does all the time but never saw as learning!!! We also pointed out that this is how his teacher sees what he can and cannot do - so if you know how to do it but just don't feel like it - she won't be able to tell that.
I like the teacher's advice here - but I absolutely understand the desire to see that its done right, especially when you know she can do it
But having her take responsibility is never a bad thing! Maybe when she gets back comments from the teacher saying what's wrong with the writing, this will translate into more careful work the next time? Interesting that is asking for checking of the math but then battling over it - maybe rather than checking, just ask her to explain to you what she did and leave it at that?
DeHe
