Thanks, all!
I should probably clarify: I have no intention of trying to treat my kids the same. That's not my problem. I didn't mean to mislead you with my comment about my parents.
Really, my problem is how to be sure that they know that I value and appreciate both of them equally even as they are treated differently, both by me and by the world in general. That's a much more challenging problem, yes?
Texas Summer: I'm a diehard feminist, so if I had a daughter who wanted to play football, she would.
Heck, I always wanted to play football myself!
But regardless, I think you're right, LMom, that saying to a child "I'm not sure I can HS you and get you what you need as well as the school can" or "You can't go to the cool DYS activity" are quite complicated to explain well...
