i have been thinking about this so much lately - this forum has kept me sane, given me encouragement, provided unbelievable resources and extended so much support. i really value everyone's thoughtful ideas and i love reading about your amazing kids - so thanks, KathrynH, for giving me a place to put all of that into words!
i really feel that it is really thanks to y'all that i'm on my way to better understanding my kid... and myself. and how's THAT for cheesy?!

happy thanksgiving, American friends!