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Unexpected sadness #157036 05/16/13 10:58 AM
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OP KADmom Member K Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 690	It looks like we're going to go ahead and accelerate ds11 to 7th grade. He is interested in doing this after weighing pros and cons (one of the pros being skipping a whole year of homework! haha). My insides, though excited for him, are churning because all I can think about is the worry: are we speeding him through his childhood. I know this perhaps is selfish and irrelevant in the scheme of things, but it's there and I don't want ds to pick up on it...

Re: Unexpected sadness KADmom #157039 05/16/13 11:08 AM
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Zen Scanner Member Z Joined: Jul 2012 Posts: 1,478 NC	One hallmark of childhood is curiosity and a passion to learn. If you keep that furnace stoked with a skip, then ultimately aren't you prolonging his childhood?

Re: Unexpected sadness Zen Scanner #157041 05/16/13 11:12 AM
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OP KADmom Member K Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 690	Thank you. That's a lovely (and helpful) way to see it.

Re: Unexpected sadness KADmom #157042 05/16/13 11:12 AM
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Dude Member Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 2,856	If it's any consolation, my childhood has continued well into my late 30s.

Re: Unexpected sadness KADmom #157044 05/16/13 11:22 AM
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doubtfulguest Member D Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 429	aw, KADmom - i'll second everything everyone has said above, but the other thing is that they're going to speed through stuff no matter what we do. the best we can do is... the best we can do, and it sounds like you're doing beautifully. Every Sunday it brooded and lay on the floor. Inconveniently close to the drawing-room door.

Re: Unexpected sadness KADmom #157054 05/16/13 11:52 AM
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OP KADmom Member K Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 690	Thanks, Dude and Doubtfulguest. Good reminders.

Re: Unexpected sadness KADmom #157061 05/16/13 12:16 PM
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deacongirl Member D Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 948	I understand. I can tell you, I had similar feelings when my dd skipped 6th this year. But she has thrived and is doing so well with the skip that they have dissipated. It has allowed her to enjoy school so much more and to keep her childlike love of learning. Also--they can always do a gap year at home before college, right? Good thoughts to you!

Re: Unexpected sadness Dude #157067 05/16/13 12:21 PM
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HowlerKarma Member Joined: Feb 2011 Posts: 5,181	Originally Posted by Dude If it's any consolation, my childhood has continued well into my late 30s. LIKE. We have experienced this wistfulness many times. We feel it especially keenly, I think, with a child who is HG+ and also an only child. Some things, we 'skip' as parents, because of DD's need/desire for acceleration. KWIM? My 13yo effectively only has one more year of "childhood." Yes, this makes me sad. VERY sad-- for myself-- but on the other hand, I don't really have doubts that we've made good decisions with her. It isn't as though I'd change a lot. Schr�dinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.

Re: Unexpected sadness deacongirl #157084 05/16/13 01:12 PM
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OP KADmom Member K Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 690	Originally Posted by deacongirl I understand. I can tell you, I had similar feelings when my dd skipped 6th this year. But she has thrived and is doing so well with the skip that they have dissipated. It has allowed her to enjoy school so much more and to keep her childlike love of learning. Also--they can always do a gap year at home before college, right? Good thoughts to you! Thanks, Deacongirl. Your dd's story is inspiring.

Re: Unexpected sadness HowlerKarma #157085 05/16/13 01:14 PM
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OP KADmom Member K Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 690	Originally Posted by HowlerKarma Originally Posted by Dude If it's any consolation, my childhood has continued well into my late 30s. LIKE. We have experienced this wistfulness many times. We feel it especially keenly, I think, with a child who is HG+ and also an only child. Some things, we 'skip' as parents, because of DD's need/desire for acceleration. KWIM? My 13yo effectively only has one more year of "childhood." Yes, this makes me sad. VERY sad-- for myself-- but on the other hand, I don't really have doubts that we've made good decisions with her. It isn't as though I'd change a lot. Thanks, Howlerkarma. As ever, your post and outlook are wise. Last edited by KADmom; 05/16/13 01:14 PM.

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