It has been over a year now and I am still in gifted denial.... She is HG+/PG but being 2e with ADHD and crippling perfectionism, she has a really hard time at school.
It takes a while, Kathleen'smum, to get over the gifted denail - and things will get better bit by bit as you do. Be gentle with yourself.
I find the quote above interesting. As if you think that a 'normal' HG+/PG kid would find regular school with agemates simply a joy. I can promise you that even without the ADHD, or perfectionism, a HG+/PG kid in a normal classroom would be climbing the walls one way or the other. It's really only the HG+/PG kids with the most compliant personalities and strongest inner fortitude that can handle average agemate classrooms.
Where do you think that perfectionism comes from? If you took a normal 10 year old, and but him in a classroom full of 6 year olds, with teachers who excelled at dealing with 6 year olds, rule appropriate to 6 year olds and books and school work appropriate to 6 year olds - how would you expect that child to act? A few dear souls would probably be totally fine, but most 10 year olds would be a mess pretty quickly. Now say, what if that 10 year old had the maturity of a normal 6 year old. What sized mess would you expect then?
So it's time for my brain to sing the clean up song from my son's preschool:
((clean up, clean up, everybody, everywhere, clean up clean up, everybody do your share))
Love and More Love,
Grinity
