I think a lot of controversies among gifted parents revolve around 'did you get a Sophie-style kid or a Lulu-style kid?' At least in my family. Raising my Sophie-style nieces and nephews hasn't' given my siblings much insight into my life raising a Lulu-style kid.
Grinity
LOL - I was a Sophie most of the time, with some Lulu thrown in. My sib was absolutely a Lulu - so I saw the value of bending to get what I wanted rather than resisting to get what I want. I had just enough Lulu to resent mightily the pressure and the lack of choice - but like both I understood that what they fought for was meaningful. Not sure yet what DS 5 is, he has elements of both.
What I learned from my parents - thankfully prior to parenting rather than during like Chua was that parenting style must age with the child - the tiger parent approach (although with bathroom breaks
) in my estimation better serves the young grade schooler - I hated the implicit assumption in high school that without the restrictions I would not work hard, it basically IMO diminished me and my ability to understand the need to achieve and keep working. parents answer was it was too costly to risk that I would do it. I like Lulu reject that notion. Interestingly, Sophie's letter indicates she felt the same, just fought the battle differently.
Personally I found it very interesting.
DeHe
