I just finished reading it and heard the self parody she mentioned in interviews. She mentions she was overconfident in her parenting and lacked self questioning. Her youngest daughter made her realize the importance of listening to her child.
I didn't see the book as a manifesto on how to raise children but a reflection of a mother who learned to recognize the difference between unhealthy perfectionism and excellence. The scene that really highlighted this was when they were in Red Square and she said, "You win. It's over. We're giving up the violin." It was a perfectionist's "all or nothing" thinking and her daughter responded, "I don't want to quit violin. I just don't want to be so intense about it."
