I'm an ENTP and my husband is an INTJ. For us, our P/J difference is quite stark. For example, he ALWAYS makes lists for me and gets frustrated that I never look at them. We tried working on a puzzle together. He sorts everything by shape. I don't sort anything and just visually scan for color/pattern. He is obsessed with being on time while my concept is a bit more fluid. My husband sees me as disorganized while I would categorize myself as alternatively organized. I grew up with an ISTJ father so I've had a lot of training re how to work around (ok, sometimes against) the J personality aspect. Sometimes I just have to remind myself to humor my hubby's J tendencies.
