floflo -
have you found Hoagie's Gifted website? It's a huge compliation of all things gifted-related. Take a look, particuarly at this page:
http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/conferences.htmSee if there are any nearby events and attend one. Try to get to know some people, see if they are 'yours.'
I don't think that you are so very unusual, myself.
As for the gender thing, I've been bouncing around some ideas. I think that one could think of gender identity as a line that everyone lines up on, with 'traditionally masculine' and 'traditionally feminine' as the poles on the graph.
Or one could think of each person as a pile of legos. If every traditionally masculine strength was a blue brick, and every traditionally feminine strength was pink brick. Maybe every strength that isn't traditionally associated with a gender role is green. Some people would have large piles, and some people would have small piles. Some peoples piles would be mostly one color. Some people's piles would be rather an even mix of all colors. I think I'm about 3/4 pink bricks, but I have about as many, if not more blue bricks than most of the guys I know.
It's documented that gifted people aren't much for 'traditional' limitations of any kind, and some places you'll read that gifted people are 'more' androgenous than the norm. If there is any truth to this, then I think that it's my 'lego analogy' sort of andrygenous, rather than the 'right in the middle' of the line analogy. But I think that people see themselves are 'right in the middle' if they've never heard the Lego analogy.
((shrug))
Maybe...
Grinity
