Hi. Wow. I'm sure many other people will give you more appropriate responses, but I wanted to at least give you a prompt response...

First of all, what an amazing kid! That is fantastic that he is so fascinated with so many different things, and so unquenchably interested in learning and growing.

Second, I am sorry you are feeling so down on yourself. But do not doubt that you have done right by your son. You and your family have clearly created an environment where he feels free to learn, where he is able to discuss things, get new materials, etc. -- and that is NOT an environment every gifted kid has.

Third, stagnation and "shutting down" are horrible, but they are not irreversible. Your kid is brilliant, you and your husband are responsive -- do not doubt that he can thrive.

Regarding the math class, Is an appeal on the decision possible? A retest? A probationary period? Though, honestly, it doesn't sound like this "advanced" math would be enough for him. I know he doesn't want to change schools, but is homeschooling an option? Does your state offer k12 or another virtual academy?

Finally, I applaud you for not emphasizing standardized tests. They are necessary evils for admissions to certain things, and I don't think it was unreasonable of you to expect your more-than-capable son to do well without having to be told anything in particular. There are plenty of reasonably smart kids whose (un)reasonably smart parents and teachers put way more emphasis on doing well on tests than on, you know, learning and applying what you learn. I am sorry that this one time it has tripped you up, but in the long run, a laid back attitude towards tests -- coupled with an environment that fosters learning -- is something you can be proud of. Now, a diagnostic test may be of use to you, but that is another matter...

Don't know if I have said anything to help, and I'm VERY sorry that you are feeling heart broken, but I honestly don't think there is reason for you to be. You clearly love your son, and I have seen no indication whatsoever that you failed him.

*Hugs*

Last edited by Clay; 06/15/10 07:48 PM.