Originally Posted by no5no5
Originally Posted by AlexsMom
That's not lying - it's engaging in the behavior that gets the desired result.

I agree. At this stage, I really feel that any communication is a good thing. She may not be able to articulate what she really wants, or the depth of her desire for it, but she has figured out another way to achieve her goal. That's wonderful, IMO.

So my response would be to help her articulate her desires more appropriately and respect them whenever possible. If she asks you to nurse but really wants to jump on the bed, perhaps you could say, "Oh, you want to jump? Why didn't you say so?" Reinforce that communicating your honest desires is the best way to achieve your goals, and then make sure that that is true.

I am happy that she is able to communicate so effectively at this point! I know many kids who can�t... The problem is, is that she knows how to say all those things like jumping on the bed, reading books there etc.. and she does say it. But if for whatever reason we can�t do that at the moment she asks to nurse and go to sleep.

ETA- I just reread your post, I think I misread it at first. I�ll try reminding her what she wants to do there than (as in jumping on the bed etc.. ) maybe she�s just forgetting that she knows those words. That�s a good point.

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