Belle, I agree with all the others that suggest including DH. Just seems to be a fact of life that the guys get treated differently.
On other thing I think I've mentioned on this board before. Regardless of how the meeting goes - i suggest that you write a letter formally requesting exactly what you want. Under Florida law, the school is basically required to give you what you want (a full grade acceleration to 3rd, or whatever else you think is appropriate and ask for) or justify and document why they won't (that's a little simplistic, but close enough for discussion purposes).
I was steamrolled for nearly six months on a request for accomodations, including a full grade skip in a different county in Florida, until I put the request in writing and basically referred to the relevant state law and regulation in that letter. I also pointed out what accomodations I was requesting as an alternative if they refused the skip (basically what a pain I would make it to accomodate in a regular classroom if they didn't comply). Suddenly the week before school started, the skip materialized.
Another thing I did was refer to the Student Progression Plan, which sets standards for when students can be promoted to the next grade and conversely retained when they don't meet those standards. I found that using their own written policy I could show that my child met the standards for progession to the next grade - mastery of performance standards (Sunshine State Standards, FCAT, etc), achievement of performance levels (your EPGY and DIBELS data), etc. If those are the standards for a second grader to be promoted to 3rd grade then why not my child.
Also, I think I recall that you are in Brevard, right? The Student Progression Plan in Brevard has a page devoted specifically to grade acceleration and establishes specific critera.
I do recognize that in my case, the county staff were basically supportive and accelerations had been done in other schools in the district, but my school was adamant about the refusal until that letter. It sounds like your problems may go beyond the school all the way up to district, despite the info in the SPP. Depending on the outcome of your meeting, maybe consider sending the letter to the school with copies to appropriate district respresentatives - gifted curriculum specialist, curriculum director, district superintendent, board members - depending on how political you want to make it.
Goo luck with the meeting!
