I'm new to the site. My daughter is in 2nd grade an attending a private school to address her academic needs. She is very social and has friends, she gets along well in school and at extra curricular activities. She is also overly sensitive, moody, and very lazy. she is respectful of all her teachers and adults no matter where she goes. The problem, however, is at home she has explosive outbursts over the smallest request by me or her dad and blows up at her younger sister (who is not gifted) over everything. When we talk to her she tells us she has "anger issues" and that she takes out everything she feels all day on us at home. Needless to say it has been very stressful in our home. We have tried every behavior modification system out there and none have worked. We are ready to seek outside family therapy, but we worry she already sees herself as "different". She is emotionally 7 and intellectually 16 any advise??
This sounds quite a bit like my dd9, except that my dd9 is not particularly lazy. She is driving me crazy though!!! It's as though she has no understanding of my authority over her. The back talk...grrrrr. She is so quick tempered that it forced me to consider whether she's hormonal! That's what seemed to fit and it scares me to death when I think about what that would mean for the teenage years. But I don't think that's it.
In the past we sought help from a nutritionist, and while the nutritionist identified some issues, taking supplements and killing yeast, etc. never seemed to have much affect on her behavior.
She also has a language processing issue, which leads to more misunderstandings (= more gigantic arguments over *nothing*)
My dd has some mild anxiety and I don't know how this is related to outbursts. We have not quite gotten around to seeing a psychiatrist for it - I don't want to have to "go there" unless it's absolutely necessary. I keep thinking we ought to be able to fix this at home. It's like there's a screw loose someplace, rattling around in her head, that just needs to be re-installed LOL!
Please post if you figure out the source of your dd's problem or anything that seems to work.
p.s. the holding it together at school and exploding at home I think is part of introversion - it means you're safe
