newmom21c,
I am definitely not able to give you a real diagnosis. But, yes, all of the symptoms you are describing are really big flags for Aspegers. Yes, most people with Aspegers come off as quirky, but no one would immediately think they have an issue. I think that is the hardest thing with DS. He is so normal so much of the time, that when one of his trigger points are hit, everyone acts like it's completely unexpected.