She is who she is.
What you fear for her is not what she will come to fear.
Right now she does not know or think that she has to associate with age peers. When she has nothing in common with them, but comes to feel guilt because she cannot please you, then she may have a fear that she does not have now.
Here is a short article on peers.
http://www.dukegiftedletter.com/articles/vol4no1_feature.htmlHow can you help your gifted children find true peers? The key is to locate programs and events that encourage mixed-age grouping so that they can interact with children of various ages and interests. For example, in rural areas, 4-H, Scouting, faith-based groups, book clubs, chess clubs, and music programs are good bets. In more populated areas, Montessori schools, academic or creative clubs and teams, and volunteer programs at museums, hospitals, and businesses are good places to start. Programs especially designed for gifted children may be helpful: summer or weekend camps for children of high ability, early entrance college programs, or support groups such as state and local gifted associations or organizations like the Davidson Institute for Talent Development.
Gifted children blossom when they have true peers for friends. Their enthusiasm and energy are contagious as they spur one another on to greater achievement, leadership, and creativity. They are more willing to take realistic risks and reach for higher goals in this company. They develop a better understanding of themselves and of their role in the world around them. They are happy, excited about life, and eager to enjoy it.
I recommend Dr Ruf's book as a starting point.
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Losing-Our-Minds/Deborah-L-Ruf/e/9780910707701Our son at 26 months is a lot like your DD. We just take one day at a time. He is who he is.
