He cried and screamed about it to no avail, so he decided to "treaten" me. He hit his head and sucked on his thumb, which are two bad habits he quits a while ago. I cannot believe he was doing those things to demand the calculator back. He did it again after I told him he couldn't watch TV.
You are so 'in trouble' there dear. I believe. I believe.
I don't want to give you the impression that there is anything 'wrong' with your child - just that some kids are harder to raise than other kids, and you've got an extra helping of 'hard work' ahead of you on your plate. One of my dearest friends keeps telling me that some of the best adults where the difficultest children.
Here's my current favorite - but I think you are going to need more than a book. Try this website
http://energyparenting.com/,
and their books
Transforming the Difficult Child - Book
The Nurtured Heart Approach is an amazing set of strategies developed specifically for children with ADHD and other challenging behaviors to facilitate parenting and classroom success. The book is written to take readers through the entire process of learning this remarkable approach and it has a wealth of explanation and examples.
and
Transforming the Difficult Child Workbook: An Interactive Guide to The Nurtured Heart Approach
The Nurtured Heart Approach, that is the basis of the top selling book on ADHD, Transforming the Diificult Child (1999) by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley,
and a phone coach - I reccomend this one - she 'gets' those 'old souls' who seem born wanting 'not to be messed with.'
Gabrielli LaChiara
15 McClure Street
Amherst, Massachusetts
Website:
http://gabrielli.orgIn the meantime, I reccomend you polish up your acting skills. If you son sees that the thumb sucking and head banding get any kind of rise out of you - you know what will happen.
Practice saying: 'I'm trusting you to handle your strong feelings wisely.' with a little confident smile.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
