If you hate what I am saying, that's fine with me, but do find someone that you know and trust and get some feedback on this issue, ok? I'm getting way too strong a vibe that you are facing a situation that is throwing you into strong feelings of being unsafe and unsupported and in danger, and that isn't the best frame of mind for problem solving.
Grinity,
I actually have not been back on the board to see responses to my original quote because it has been a busy weekend until now. (Wyldkat disagreed with you)
I do not hate what you are saying, it does differ from my thoughts, but is a valid viewpoint. I am much calmer now about the situation than I was when I first posted. I plan on talking to the teacher Monday when I drop DD off to class so that she can be aware that this happened and so that she will maybe think a bit more before she reacts to my usually quiet and obedient child like she does to some of the other more wild kids in her class.
We have had a long talk with DD about how to handle this if it happens again and ways to avoid it all together. Only time will tell if she has actually thought it through enough to try and avoid it in the future. I know she has thought about it a lot, but whether it will remain with her when needed - we'll see.
As another turn of events, in terms of the bathroom thing, it appears that part of the problem with DD right now is that she may have a UTI. She is starting to show the signs, so she's off to the doctor's tomorrow to check. If this is the case, then it completely explains why she couldn't wait through the teacher's explanation, but does not make the situation of DD being afraid to ask to go to the bathroom ok.
There have also been other issues with this teacher throughout the year that I didn't mention in my original post. She doesn't seem to be interested in helping DD, rather just in doing things to prove that since DD isn't the teacher's preconceived notion of a gifty, that she isn't really gifted. You know, the vicious cycle of DD's frustrated so not doing well, teacher only sees that she's not doing well, which reinforces the teacher's beliefs that dd isn't really gifted, which means she won't give her differentiated work which leads DD to be more frustrated, etc etc etc.
Problem solving is what we have been doing throughout the year, and will continue to do, probably throughout DD's education. We're frustrated that so far our problem solving has lead to too few problems actually getting solved. (Although some have been diminished to the point of being livable.) But this too, I think is the unfortunate lot of giftys at this point in our society.
I love the fact that I can vent here and get feedback and ideas. I don't have anyone here (other than DH) that I can talk to who understands what we're dealing with.
