hi exhaustomom
i know those books sometimes take a while to get to the point. I would also highly recommend Nurtured Heart- i felt my daughter was not right for the Explosive Child but it fit my son (to summarize my earlier posts!)..The best thing I got from Explosive Child is making sure to start by empathizing with your child.. and a great thing from Nurtured Heart was doing a time out without having to move your child to a room or bench. And for recognizing that just because my kids are explosive, i'm not a bad parent!! Really helped.
irene