Yeah that went well....not. GAAH. So we went to dh's parents house the day after christmas and his sister and her 2 kids were there....one is 6.5 and in K because he was red shirted and the other is DD's age.
Well DD and her cousin that is her age could not be more different. DD's switch was set on high at bith and got stuck there LOL. She is constantly asking questions, exploring, making connections, never stops moving, and is reading on a K-1 level. Well Maybe DD would have played with her if she was more outoing, but she sits quitly and plays with dolls and that holds dd intrest for about a min. Usually DD would have interacted with a 6 year old more...she loves that age and converses and plays very well with them, but her 6 year old couisin is used to his sister and considered DD a baby like her and it frusterated DD to no end. So DD spent her time talking to adults, doing complicated puzzles, mazes, and of course...reading.
Well this did not seem to go over well with my SIL. She commented that children who can read at DD age can only do it by memory, and if they don't practice they wil forget how by K...umm DD can sound out new words she has never seen, so it is not all by memory. She also said that I "teach" DD and that is why she knows all she does....well she calls teaching when I answer DD's questions. For example...DD asked me what were those black lines (talking about power lines) so I told her. Then DD asked what is a power line, so I explained. I don't consider this "teaching" DD, but just being a parent. If DD asks me a question, I am going to answer her. It was extreamly frusterating to hear DD's abilities put down and to be told she is only like this beacuse I work with her. When in reality, I purly follow her lead, but yes if DD asks me something, I will show her. DD asked for weeks how to read a clock, so one afternoon I showed her. Yes I taught her, but only because she asked for weeks, and it seriously took me showing her once before she got it. I understand she is defensive, and that her daughter does not asks questions the way my child does, but I do not put her child's talents down. Her son is wonderful at drawing...I don't say any 6 year old can do that. ..or every id will be able to draw like him in a few years. I say "wow, he is really good. Most kids can't even begin to draw like that." So why does she have to try to make me feel bad about the way my DD is?!
Sorry thanks for reading, just really needed to vent. Thankfully we came home today so..shaking it all off.
