Since that day, I've been honest. If someone asks me a question, I answer it. I do it in a very matter of fact manner. It has caused some issues on occasion but those who know my son understand that it's a hard ride and wouldn't want to be in my shoes.
This is what I try to do, as well. I tend to over-think things most of the time (how will this be received? will they know what I mean to say? I hope I didn't hurt X's feelings, etc.). My husband has told me this on more than one occasion and when I stop and think about it (yeah, more thinking), he's right. I figure if I'm not out to hurt anyone's feelings or step on anyone's toes and I'm being honest with my answers, then I can't go wrong. I can't always hold myself responsible for how other people are going to interpret what I say or do - everyone's perception is different.
I don't go volunteering all kinds of information, but if asked, I state the facts as I know them
. By the same token, I try to keep an open mind when it seems that someone else is 'bragging' and realize that they may not be intending to step on my toes either.
