My DH understands but isn't that involved in it--he says it's my job (since I don't work). I update him but he doesn't like it when I ramble about choices, decisions, issues, etc. I've heard it's characteristic of men that I need to ask him one thing specifically (e.g. Should DS skip another grade?) rather than tossing out ideas for an hour.
I loved that when my mom was alive she'd listen to me bounce around ideas or dilemmas, and now it's just me. I try to involve the kids more in the decision-making.
I don't have any advice for you other than to stay strong (and silent if need be). Your child is indeed special and it may be a lonely prospect, but it's yours nonetheless.
