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I also have to agree with Grinity and ask why does it matter to you? Could you try to be happy with the mother and share her excitement about the little boys development? It drives me nuts that we can not share DD's achievements with SIL&BIL as they seem to be afraid if she wold be more advanced than their boys (the boys are really smart kids so they have no reason to be jealous). It should not be away from their kids giftedness if DD is advanced. You can see I really can not stand comparing kids, we should enjoy all of them equally regardless of they abilities.
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As I posted last, I am trying to "understand" the differences and if there is a difference? It has come up in our group discussions and it's not at all in a way that suggests anyone is less than excited for each others children. (I guess that's what I get for trying to post while my little kids are running around the room screaming and playing, things don't come out right.)
This particular mom has been involved in these discussions as the newer Moms try to sort out the potential giftedness of their child. We all try to understand the difference between parent driven and child driven learning. All wanting to understand the extremes on either side. I'm sorry if this came across wrong. I am taking offense to being jumped on about the question. I don't think I'm the first or the last parent to want to understand it.
I've googled the topic and can't find any resources to help answer our questions. I thought I'd ask the experts on this forum for their thoughts. I'm surprised by most of the reactions as it almost seems as though it's threatening to suggest the parents are directing the child's learning.
As far as comparing kids, I have experienced these issues so I understand . With PG kids in my household, I've seen first hand what it has done to neighborhood friendships, family relationships, etc and I'm very sensitive to that. Realistically, I don't think we can have parent discussion groups or forums without some level of "comparing" going on (for good or bad.) It's just the nature of our situations.
R
