Sorry you are going through this. I can relate as well as many of the others here. When DS was 3 he attended a preschool for a couple hours a week for a few months. One of his teachers there told us that we should have him tested because they thought he had "something on the spectrum" and that they had never seen a child that smart that did not have some sort of diagnosis. That was pretty alarming to hear. I have a background in that area and did not at all feel he had aspergers but realized it may come up again and decided to have him see a developmental pediatrician who was very clear that DS did not have Aspergers. I think that people just aren't familiar with quirky gifted children. I think the ones that are more HG and PG stand out more, and at a younger age. My parents have told me that people have come to them (not to me of course) and said to them that there is just something different about my DS, something not quite right that they can't put their finger on. Of course half of them don't know that he is a PG kid and have only watched how he interacts with peers his age and haven't talked with him at all. I often think things like "if your IQ was twice everyone elses around you, don't you think you would interact a little differently and think differently?" Of course I would never say that, but it's true isn't it? It just bothers me that some people can't understand that most behaviors and things he does have to do with him being gifted. Like when we play games sometimes it will take him a while inbetween turns because he is doing math equations or thinking about building something in his head. I could go on and on about different examples like that. Of when he acts up in his class at church because they are teaching at such a lower level and he is bored out of his mind. I definitely know that Aspergers does exist and I think it should be recognized and people should get services when the diagnosis is truly warranted.
Sorry I went on a bit, but it is frustrating and I feel your pain and frustration.
