Thanks guys for your insights - I so appreciate them...this past week I really feel like my brain is being pulled in ten different directions!
I just get so frustrated when people are so quick to put a label down before the whole situation has been seen or told..when we have 4-5 professionals all telling us no and then a new situation comes up where we have to explain DS6's "issues" to a new group of people, this whole debate just gets brought to the front again...

The article link is here
http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Amend_MisdiagnosisOfAspergersDisorder.shtml

and here is another link I found that was very interesting and showed how a gifted child could be mislabeled with aspergers.

http://gifted-disinkroni.blogspot.com/2007/04/psychological-misdiagnosis-of-gifted.html