I tell my DD9 when asked why she goes to a different program one day a week to say "it is something that the school and my parents decided I should do".
Parents don't ask me much, but it has changed friendships.
I am trying to help our tiny school by reporting back to a handful of people about what they do in the gifted pull out program that the county provides, to help other families who ask about it. I am not sure that these people want this information, which is sad, because they should want to be informed. All schools have a wide variety of kids, why not learn about what to do for GT or HG kids who walk in the door?
