It's a good compromise, including the curfew issue, and of course, we do need to cover our legal responsibilities... even if I may be more tempted to defend my children despite their bad habit. I do believe we need a limit somewhere so they do have a sense of security, and that limit is drugs—I will not allow them in the home. However, I will not go out of my way to catch kids doing drugs.
I do agree with you on all of this, including outings before the exam. It's their consequences. I managed what may be converted to 98 or 99+ ATAR depending on university (not Australian).
Ultimately I do believe this is great parenting. However what about the other kids? What if teachers try to impose stricter limits on the students that may not be fair, for instance in a misguided attempt at "safeguarding"?
