I don't have anything really useful to add--just wanted to say that I have a child who is kind of ASD-ish, but also not, who confuses us, too. She is now seeing yet another professional who does not think she is ASD (we also filled out some screeners which apparently did not indicate it, but we did not do a full neuropsych exam). However, she is certainly wired funny in odd ways that confuse us, teachers, and professionals. At this point, I am unsure if we will ever get an accurate dx (other than anxiety, which is quite clear) so we are working more on finding tools. We find these may come from tools used by professionals working with children with ASD, ADHD, ODD, anxiety, or actually OCD. I would note, however, that academic problems are not a feature for DD. She is just unusual and emotionally/behaviorally complex.
