MichelleC, your description creates a picture that I share and I am happy to see that it is not so isolated. I share with you the "since the day he was born", yes literally. Mine had a stare that was unbelievable, and a little unsettling!. That intensity never wanes. It is so helpful to hear that it can still be a struggle. I have to figure out how to educate her. Drill remedial stuff in which she is behind, or just give it a cursory nod while we pursue more interesting and exciting things... Still so many questions, but thank you everyone who chimed in to offer perspective. We're going it alone besides Davidson/Hogies.
