Sue, I concur. Having been through that step of "processing" with my child, I have to say that I never though that was the sort of scaffolding that I'd find myself doing.
It was both eye-opening and sobering. You truly
cannot expect to win on merit alone anymore-- because so many of those around you will stop at pretty much nothing. So if you intend to live within your own code of ethics, it may come at some cost. Choose wisely, yes-- but also make peace with the possible consequences of that choice.
