I didn't honestly feel comfortable saying much about my DD's abilities until I had some objective evidence (standardized test scores). She seemed very bright to me, but I didn't think my "gut feeling" would mean much to the school, so for the most part, I didn't bother. You, too, may feel more comfortable advocating for your DD once you have some test scores in hand. The nice thing about private testing is that you can have it done, and then decide whether you wish to share it with the school.

BTW, my "compliant blender" is DS. DD, actually, is neither er, particularly compliant, nor does she always care to blend. wink I could EASILY see DS being missed by a teacher because he is quiet and usually well-behaved. So yes, it is not just the girls who are like this.