He is pulled out for speech a few times per month for 20 min. and also sees the school psych a few times a month. And the special ed teacher was pulling him (not sure how often--once per week?) but all he did was social stories on the ipad with him. No social skills group or anything of the like. Does that sound completely inappropriate considering he has Aspergers? His behavior is so difficult he needs an aide for part of the school day, but that is just to control him.
The diagnosis doesn't drive the services-- the child's needs are supposed to drive the services. You can't say there's a standard "Asperger's package" of services-- the IEP is individual and has to be based on data about the individual child's capabilities and deficits.
That mom can request a Functional Behavior Analysis from the district-- it does sound like the child needs more direct instruction than he's getting. One can also write a behavior plan (addendum to the IEP) that specifies how the entire staff is to respond to behavior issues: that's a really important piece for a child who doesn't obey behavior norms.
The school has an obligation to provide an appropriate education, but unfortunately it is often on the parents to drive the process of helping school see what is needed.
In response to the OP, my kids have received quite a bit of direct and useful help through school; sometimes I have had to remediate major issues on my own when school refused to help. It's been a mix.
