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Hi peanutsmum. We have been where you are in many ways. Our DD was tested on the SB V but similar to you, high VS, off the charts fluid reasoning and quantitative reasoning. SB V doesn't have processing speed as such, no real reliance on timed items so its good for reflective thinkers and may yield high scores for your child if high scores are what you need. It may also give some different information if you are thinking about retesting. DD said it was fun, with the right tester.
Regarding VS and Linda Silverman. I read her book after getting the test scores and thought, yep that is very much like our DD. I haven't been fussed over learning styles as it wasn't really an issue until now. DD read early by whole word recognition and then watched a Sesame St video on blending sounds over and over. Then she could read anything! Now, she is struggling with the amount of reading she has to do. She is a slow reader and she says it is because she uses every word to create a movie in her head. We have returned to LS's work, I have her book beside me, looking for ways to help. By the way, DD hated math, was bored rigid by rote learning especially multiplication tables, until she hit algebra. She is now accelerated by three grades in maths. She still is no where near as good with math calculation, thank goodness for calculators, as she is at math reasoning. We used musical multiplication tables as an adjustment to her 'learning style' in that sense.
I am very much research trained but I also know that in both medicine and psychology there are unique situations where all the information you have apart, from your own patient, is case reports and other people's experience. I use whatever information I can but evaluate it for the situation I have at hand. Case reports and anecdotal evidence are what we come to this site to talk about, our unique kids. Where we can we draw on research and evidence we do, but the more unique the situation, the less likely there is much research available.
Learning styles are controversial but finding different ways to support your child's learning is what you will do. Finding a school who understands your child and you and is willing to work with you trumps any kind of gifted program in my opinion. Go with that if you can find it but it is really hard. You may need to change schools as your child grows and changes and that is okay too. Our DD changed schools 5 times in primary school, military family! She is reserved but she coped. Some schools were better than others. The best was a public school which understood accelerated learning.
We tried lateral extension into music, ballet and languages when school was not enough to meet her educational needs but it doesn't replace an appropriate level of education. As much as she enjoyed the other activities the classroom was still painful.
On the social side, DD gets on best with anyone, adult or child, who likes and accepts her and with whom she can find common ground. Lots of the kids are HG but one was delayed academically. She was just a really nice person!
I hear your doubts about whether your child is gifted. I still wonder that despite the evidence to the contrary, especially as I fight my way through her cluttered bedroom or she fails to complete a two stage instruction. Then I start worrying about whether she is 2e! But VS kids are messy and don't always hear you too!