I just want you all to know how incredibly helpful your responses have been to my DH and I. I am full of anxiety as we go through this journey and you gave me great tools to work with, read them to my DH as soon as he got home tonight.
What I learned from these responses: keep it simple, talk about interests rather than skills, don't downgrade any of his skills to fit in with any groups, oh and also, we'll be in a secret society forever (LOL/oh well).