I don't think it is about expectations. I don't want her to become an underachiever and get lazy because things come so easily. And at 3, I am starting to see habits develop.
I want her interacting with engaging intelligent friends that will keep her motivated to keep learning. These are not expectations, these are concerns.
What I wrote about competitiveness for college/plus education, is not about 17 applications. I am hearing 75 plus applications. With the automation, kids can find scholarships more easily, apply to colleges more easily, but it also means more competition. So it becomes like 1000 or 10000 people applying for a job on line. You have to have the key requirements to make the cut before human hands even get to you.
And, like I wrote in my first line, it is about the college experience you want. To me, Harvard does give you a good education, but it more about the community of Harvard. It is a different kind of college experience. But that is a stand-alone. It is better to go to Stanford than Dartmouth or Cornell (unless you want to be in hotel management). Or Penn State (but then you are stuck in bloody State College, PA). Or MIT if you want to focus on tech, or Syracuse if you want journalism.
And I used to recommend Yale because there was this amazing bread, best bread ever,ever, ever, that you could get at this health food store near Yale. But the bread is gone and now Yale is a 4 letter word in this household.
So didn't say it was the end all and be all. Just favored. And since I got DD a Canadian passport after her arrival, going to a great Canadian school would be so much cheaper, but it is different. Being on the Harvard perifery and comparing my alumni experience, way different.
Ren
