Wow! We went through the exact same situation. We are in PA and attribute it to these facts: gifted ed. is mandated but not funded and the curriculum for teachers does not include learning about the high-IQ students. Our PA Assoc. for Gifted Ed. and the Penn Center are having a seminar on Aug. 21 in Phila. about excellence/leadership in ed. for gifted/advanced learners. My point is "you are not alone" and "hang in there." Your instincts are correct; you are doing all the right things. Stay apprised of gifted in your locale and state and leverage from other areas. Information online will reduce the frustration. It does get better for the gifted students in general as elementary school is behind them, but, yes, it is very hard on gifted families in those early years.
