Hmmm. I don't know what to offer, really. There's a reason she's seeking out her age peers, but what stands out for me is that these age peers throw punches at her self-esteem. I think that would concern me most. And I wonder if a lot of girls are vunerable to this kind of thing. I would worry that it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy as I think you might be.

Now that it's summer are there any summer camps in which she could be re-invigorated by her academic peers and get to fully experience her own power and uniqueness? Any place she can be with her people?