I can get inside her head in ways that my DH can't. But I'm never sure how much of that is LOG and how much of it is personality. She is very much like me in temperment/personality.
In our case, I can get into my DD8's head many times because her modes of learning and experiencing the world are very similar to mine, causing me to joke that I have the user's manual to her brain. This all seems alien to my DW, who denies being gifted despite displaying many of the traits, but whose brain is wired very differently from ours. At the risk of oversimplification, DD and I are visual/forest types, and DW is an aural/trees type.
In addition, DD and I share a set of temperament/personality traits... but there's another set in there which are alien to me, but DW totally understands. So, depending on the situation at the moment, either DW or I will point at the other and say, "That's
your daughter," and let the other to figure out how best to deal with it.
