Originally Posted by HowlerKarma
I also think that this is a deep, deep flaw in the ideals behind attachment parenting

The ideals espoused by API, or a third party interpretation? AFAIK, the tenets are pretty general and encompass any number of potential parenting arrangements across ages. The eighth of their recommendations is to strive for personal and familial balance, which is what you're advocating, no?

From a quick Google:

http://www.attachmentparenting.org/principles/principles.php

What is to give light must endure burning.