I can't tell you how many times in working with our schools and the private professionals who've worked with my 2e ds I've heard "We've never seen another kid like him". I suspect based on those comments and based on how difficult it's been to find anyone who's remotely in the same situation as us irl, that most highly capable kids are functioning very happily and are very neurotypical
Kids at the >99.9% level are one in a thousand and a tenth of those kids are one in ten thousand. Most teachers will never come across a single child at that level in their entire career.
We don't come across kids like ours in daily life because we don't meet thousands of other children and even if we did, it would be very hard to spot the difference between brilliant and atypical and just plain atypical, which seems more prevalent.
I'm looking for evidence of children who are >99.9% and who are otherwise completely neurotypical. According to the school's theory, they should outnumber the atypical kids by a wide margin.
Maybe they do... but it's probably not relevant either way, in light of the facts behind the rest of your post. Well-stated, actually.
While DD is completely NT as far as we can tell, we
often hear "I've never seen/had a student/pupil/child like her" and we've come to accept that what they MEAN by this is simply her high cognitive ability. That's what they indicate when they discuss it further with us, anyway. The other part of the time, people will talk about having encountered "one" or "a couple" of people like her-- in a career/lifetime.
She is often a curiosity for adults who work with children
because she challenges their assumptions about high IQ and 'weirdness' going hand in hand. They assume Bing Bang Theory, and she's not actually anything like that. She blends in about as well as she chooses to most of the time.
It makes sense just from a statistical perspective that few people have a lot of experience with persons of her LOG.
