We, too, have handled this kind of thing as Bostonian's family has. Avoid the gruesome imagery, but-- discuss. I told my DD13 before she saw the footage (which was admittedly quite blood-soaked, IMO).

We've never tried to shield DD-- DD (2y) was perfectly 'aware' of 9/11 and somehow managed to process that completely adequately and without emotional harm. At that point, there seemed no point in shielding her from anything else. Keeping information from a HG+ kid who is tuned into the world is a losing battle, IMO.

Bostonian, I am glad that you and your family are well. smile

Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.