That is such a healthy way of viewing this, Moomin.
That's how I've always tried to approach things, as well. It does take a certain maturity, though, not to go overboard into OCD-style perfectionism. I do worry about that some with my DD. She really does feel a need to be "perfect" to "make up for" the inconvenience of... well, being included like her peers.
Good news: DD forwarded me the e-mail that she got last week from the program office, and they are forwarding applications to mentors at the end of NEXT week, so no mentors will have seen the notes on her file-- yet.
I'm waiting for a call back.
ETA: Program coordinator wasn't really clear WHY I was objecting to this particular set of notes being included in DD's application, but I gently explained that many faculty will not be aware that life-threatening food allergy is covered by ADA/ADAA, and therefore having it gone would be best. It's a conversation that can be had in the event of an offer, but not appropriate as a selection criterion-- we wouldn't want there to be any QUESTIONS about whether or not it had been (illegally) used that way. With a mobility impairment, it would be far more obvious that such a thing would be strictly verboten. But that with a hidden and poorly understood disability like this, it's better to not have it out there to begin with.
*poof* the note is gone. I also seeded her head with why asking about "conditions" in the preliminary application may open them up here... but I don't think she was "getting it" very well there.
I'll probably return to the issue with them at some point, suggesting that they should make sure that this is compliant.
Last edited by HowlerKarma; 03/14/13 02:58 PM.
