Okay-- in talking with DD about this phone call in a more inquisitorial fashion, several things have emerged.
1. She's pretty sure that the person she spoke with never gave her a name. Only identified themselves as "with {program}."
2. Definitely took notes "to pass along to mentors."
That means that unless they flag those notes as "disability" then they WILL be used as selection criteria.
DD feels awful; like an ignorant little kid, in spite of me pointing out that I've seen ADULTS get themselves into this kind of situation, too, and that as soon as she explained severity, the term "disability" should have come up-- and it very definitely did not, which was not her fault at all.
It's not realistic to expect our 2e kids to be able to advocate for themselves as if they were us (that is, experienced, savvy adults). I'm annoyed that my DD13 was placed into a position for that to have been required of her. Frankly, this is a challenging scenario even for a pretty clever parent advocate to negotiate well.
