Melessa, I love how you present ideas to your DH. Gotta learn that one from you. I have been asking DH to find his own happy medium with dd and no one is happy. Maybe I need to help DH try my techniques on working with my dd.

Colomom, sounds like your DH and dd have a beautiful relationship. Thanks for the ideas. Come to think of it, dd and DH loved building the snowman and snow castle a couple of weekends ago and I loved an hour of my time.

Aquinas, from reading your posts, I agree that our children and our parenting styles have things in common. I have to start forcing my DH to start taking dd to her music and gym class. The sitting judge idea is great! Dd loves to perform and DH loves to just sit and watch, lol!